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Advice Column
By Damon Cater | Published  04/18/2007
Local people write in to get advice from Tyto the Great.

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  • Comment #1 (Posted by Lydia)

    I have been married for five years. My husband and me are from BUckhannon and when we got married we were much happier. It leemed like we were not like other couples that we knew because we were a lot cooler. I used to wear sexy clothes and Ron was a really sweet guy with lots of friends. Now he is getting fat and I only wear clothes that I get at Wlamart because there isn't any reason to get nice stuff because we never go out and party any more. I am thinkng about getting a divorce and trying to start over without losing the fun in my life.
     
  • Comment #2 (Posted by Tyco the Great)

    What you are describing is an internal conflict between your perceived self and your real self. When you got married you pictured in your mind a relationship wherein you and your husband conitnued to be popular and beautiful. You imagined a relationship that others would admire and to some extent even be jealous of. However, since your self perception relied only on superficial facets of your personality, your clothes, your hair and your husband's body type, you have not really been able to actually bring anyhting of real quality to your life.
    I have no doubt that if you get divorved, find a handsome husband and go through the excitement of the courting process, you will find yourself in the some boat five years from now. The only thing that you can do to resolve this conflict is to actually bring some meaning to your life. BE somebody worthy of admiration. Work on your soul a little bit and the girth of your husbands belly will not matter to you.
    I would recommend volunteering for a non profit organization helping other people. If you want to feel good about yourself add something to the quality of who you are that does not come off with your makeup at the nd of the day but instead becomes a part of who you are.
     
  • Comment #3 (Posted by Tom Sawyer)

    My advice is this: Learn how to spell!
     
  • Comment #4 (Posted by Buckhannon's Finest)

    Marriage is a lifetime commitment! Work out your differences and make the relationship back to what it used to be. People need to start thinking about decisions before they make them. God can help you too-He did create you afterall
     
  • Comment #5 (Posted by Mary)

    ok MR. Tyto. You think your so great. How about this? My daughter in-law, has my son wrapped around her little finger. She treats him like he's a child. Last weekend, they came over to our house for memorial day picnic and MIke was supposed to bring the grill with him because ours is broken. Well.. he brought it but his is a gas grill and ours is just a regular coal grill.
    She got so mad at him and made him go all the way back to their house, abou twenty miles to get the propane tank. The thing that bothers me is that she yells at him in front of all our friends and relatives and he just stands their and takes it. I never raised him to be treated like a dog, but that's what she does.
    I tried to talk to him about it, and his brothers don't seem to care. But no matter what I say, he just seems to ignore me. What should I do.
     
  • Comment #6 (Posted by Tyto)

    Ah... the hen pecked husband scenario. There are only two explainations for this. By the way... you sound like quite the hen yourself. I noticed that while you did mention some other sympathetic family members, your own husband was not one of them. Is he cowering in a corner, opinion invalidated and totally neutered? Or has he flown the coop in search of little dwarves bowling in an Adirondack canyon much like Mr. Rumplestillskin did in order to get away from his overbearing wife.
    In the event, however, that I am mistaken in guessing that your own relationship with your husband was your spineless son's demise, and you actually presented an egalitarian domicile to your offspring, then I suppose it is possible that you simply and admirably raised a kind and patient son; one who is not bothered by the twittering and obtruisve demands of the fairer sex.
    My advise is mind your own business and let your son live his own life. He is a married man. Accept his mate as a member of your own family. He already is aware that you disapprove of her, which I'm sure makes her beratinghim in public all the more humiliating. Your duty is not to control his relationship with his wife but to love him and accept her as she is, as he has done. I'm sure your no picnic in and of yourself.
     
  • Comment #7 (Posted by Raped)

    Dear Tyto,
    You are a pretty damn good writer. You seem very capable of understanding both sides of an issue and recognising that nothing is totally one sided. I have to go to bed now. I must work tomorrow so that I can support my ex-wife.
     
  • Comment #8 (Posted by Mystified on Main St.)

    Please help! My cat will not poop in the litter box. He used to do his business without any problem, but now he poops beside the box all the time. He pees in the box without any hassle, curiously. I clean the box frequently I have tried puttin the box in different locations. I have tried all of the different cat litters. Nothing works. I am spending a small fortune on paper towels cleaning up the poop everyday - not to mention the ungodly smell this creates.. Any suggestions?
     
  • Comment #9 (Posted by Tyto)

    Who the hell knows why a cat does anything? Your query brings to mind only one thing. Nobody teaches people how to think. Problem solving should be required in every class room from first grade through high school. Our education system is so bent on reciting useless facts that it entirely neglects the best opportuntiy our society has to teach real critical thinking to its citizens.
    Your cat likes to take a crap next to a box with urine and dirt in it. Do you think your cat would care if it just so happened that the area next to that box was also covered with kitty litter? Put another kitty litter box next to the one that your cat likes to crap beside. If it craps next to that one then your cat is just screwing with you. You must have pissed it off somehow, and you'll either have to try to get even with it or beg for forgiveness.
    Thanks for the no brainer... moron.
     
  • Comment #10 (Posted by Harry Arms)

    Dear Tyco, while I was turning a corner in my car the other day in downtown buckhannon, the driver's side car door flew open and I fell out. The car continued around the carner wihout me and glided gently into a metered parking space. Before I got back to the car, a cop had given me a parking ticket. Am I repsonsible or not, it's my7 girlfriend's car?
     
  • Comment #11 (Posted by Tyto)

    Why didn't your side kick, Laurel ,just take the steering wheel off the column and pretend to drive the car from the passenger side? All kidding aside, I see your dilemma. An elderly gentleman recently removed the last of his remaining hair, having been in the bank for less than 45 seconds and returning to find a ticket on his car and no meter maid in sight.
    My best guess is that your fall was duly noted by the parking police and having ascertained the car's inability to put money in the meter on its own, and having parked itself, the the car was a priori in violation of Buckhannon's parking ordinance. One way to test this theory would be to walk slightly ahead of the meter guy putting quarters in expired meters just before he arrives. This, to me would be the same as you following your car into its spot and paying for its unintended park after the fact.
    I don't know how our local government would respond to this kind of anarchy, but I would certainly like to hear about it.
     
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